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C’mon guys, you can do better than that
Posted May 11, 2007

Jillian Peña
Editorial Director

I have always prided myself on being a pretty rational girl. I don’t cry at the drop of a hat, I try to avoid getting angry for no reason and I have never been the jealous type. Some would say that I am a pretty cool girl to hang around.

For the most part I get along really well with members of the opposite sex. I grew up with four older brothers and my best friend from age six to 14 was the blonde haired boy from down the street.

I would like to think that I understand the male gender at least enough to maintain civil relations with them.

But as of late I have begun to question my ability to comprehend what the hell is going on inside their heads.

Up until last year I have had my fair share of relationships with amazing guys but for some reason or another things just didn’t work out. That’s cool, I am an adult. You learn from your mistakes and move on but for some reason this last year has been a total mess when it comes to the men in my life.

And what is sad is that it is not just me. I have had friend after friend come crying to me about how the man in their life has royally messed up for the last time.

This column may seem a little out of character for a girl who is normally pretty laid back when it comes to the opposite sex but I am tired of dealing with their nonsense.

I don’t know if it is the lack of options of male students here at the University of La Verne or if it is just the fact that when guys get to college they go a little retarded, but the men in my life over the past year have been utterly confused about what they want out of a relationship.

If a girl is pretty, sweet and attentive at the beginning of a relationship by the third week she is too attractive to other guys, too nice and way too clingy. If she is assertive, independent and funny when the relationship is in full bloom by the time the sun sets she is overbearing, unaffectionate and annoying.

Really, what are we supposed to think?

Just because you have no idea what you want in your life does not mean that you need to take it out on us. Do us a favor and figure out what you want then make the move to be in a relationship. It will save everyone a lot of time and heartache.

To avoid the inevitable relationship guy drama we become single and determined to better ourselves without a man.

And finally when you think you are safe, secure and far away from potential testosterone driven insanity it finds you in the most obscure places.

The club, the grocery store, walking to class, guys without a clue are everywhere.

What happened to chivalry boys? When is it ever okay to go up to a woman, throw your arm around her, tell her she looks hot and then grab her ass? That is not okay!

If you are trying to get a woman’s attention open the door for her, compliment her eyes, impress her friends. Running to get her a beer and then grinding up on her on the dance floor is not the best way to make a good first impression.

C’mon guys, you can do better than that!

Now I know there are the few exceptions to the drones I have just mentioned. There are those few guys who really do try and make an effort to be respectful and understanding of women’s feelings and for that I say thank you.

You give us hope that there is a light at the end of the very, very dark tunnel and I want you to know that it is appreciated.

Jillian Peña, a sophomore communications major, is editorial director of the Campus Times. She can be reached by e-mail at jpena2@ulv.edu.